What in the Actual…Life

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  • Ten Days In: School, Appointments, & Hitting a Wall Abroad
    In Life abroad, Italian chaos
  • My Kids Finally Started School Abroad…
    In Life abroad, Italian chaos
  • Things I Didn’t Expect About Being an Expat Mom in Bologna
    In Life abroad, Italian chaos
  • Life abroad, Italian chaos,  Motherhood & Reflection

    Expat Mom in Bologna: Motherhood, Bureaucracy, and Real Life

    26.01.2026 /

    Motherhood, but make it Italian I didn’t move to Bologna to become an “expat mom.” That label arrived later, quietly, after I realized how often I was explaining myself, my kids, and my presence. I moved because life shifted. Plans unraveled. The idea of staying where I was felt heavier than leaving everything I knew. Now I’m parenting in a city I love. I’m still figuring out how I fit inside it. I am still learning the language, the rhythms, and the unspoken rules of daily life. This move was part of a larger shift I wrote about earlier in This Isn’t the Life I Planned… Motherhood doesn’t reset when…

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WRITER (😂). PARENT. CHAOS CURATOR.

I’m a single mom raising two tiny humans while trying to remember where I left my sanity. I write about real life—the messy, loud, unfiltered bits no one posts on Instagram. If you’re here for perfection… bless your heart.

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Single mom. Life abroad. Chaos, kids, caffeine, and questionable decisions. Blogging the sh*t I can’t make up.

Update: you cannot die from it, but it surely feel Update: you cannot die from it, but it surely feels like it. It's like when the weather says "40 degrees, feels like 20 degrees" - it's like, oh cool so i'm not supposed to freeze but i'm going to feel like i'm freezing? #momlife #unfilteredparenting
Celebrating nothing at all. except that I found BE Celebrating nothing at all. except that I found BEER NUTS #thisisfine #momfuel
after all the overthinking, the mom guilt, the con after all the overthinking, the mom guilt, the constant questioning of my decisions...I still wouldn't go back and change a damn thing. Also, these completely heartfelt hugs do not happen anymore. We now get hugs in the form of chokeholds, body slams, farting on one another, and the list goes on. #siblingslove #tinyhumans #momguilt
One day I will post a full ass blog on this topic One day I will post a full ass blog on this topic - I have two wildly different children. One is slightly feral, the other is slightly concerned how feral the other one is. Can you guess which one is which?? #chaosclub #feralparenting #opposites #singlemom
Bologna called and really said "You should probabl Bologna called and really said "You should probably uproot your mundane life and move here already" - first time in my life I actually listened to someones advice, and here we are! #lifeabroad #kidsinitaly #italylife #singlemom #bolognacentro
How it started - how it went - how it ended...that How it started - how it went - how it ended...that one time we chose an "easy" hike called the Bee Gulch where we literally walked through a whole ass land of massive bees and couldn't make it to the top (probably 50 feet away) because it was too steep and we kept sliding. 5 miles round trip and I had to carry Marlena the last mile out after she ate shit trying to do some unknown ninja move between trees and rocks. Not to mention the entire internal battle I was having with my self the entire time while keeping a positive voice and smile on but my internal voice was wreaking havoc on me trying to come up with a plan if we were approached by a mountain lion - I wasn't worried about bears, for some reason I told myself 'bears aren't as scary as mountain lions, we'll be fine if we come across one'. 10/10 don't recommend the easy bee-gulch hike as a single adult with 2 children - one very concerned and fearful, one not nearly concerned or fearful as she should be. #adventurekids #hikingadventure #momunhinged #hikingmistakes
The blog is LIVE! It's been a long road to get her The blog is LIVE! It's been a long road to get here, lots of breaks and disappearing motivation but here we are ready to launch...😬🥳

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My blog is where the chaos goes so it doesn’t stay inside my head.
Parenting, life abroad, disasters, sarcasm.
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Hi, I’m Mary. Single mom. Professional chaos coord Hi, I’m Mary. Single mom. Professional chaos coordinator.
I moved abroad with two kids, a suitcase full of optimism, and absolutely zero clue what I was doing.
This space is where I blog the sh*t I can’t make up — the real stories, the funny disasters, the “you won’t believe what my kid said to the pharmacist today” moments.
Welcome to the circus. 🎪✨ #momlife💕 #momblog #chaos
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Recent Posts

  • Ten Days In: School, Appointments, & Hitting a Wall Abroad
    In Life abroad, Italian chaos
  • My Kids Finally Started School Abroad…
    In Life abroad, Italian chaos
  • Things I Didn’t Expect About Being an Expat Mom in Bologna
    In Life abroad, Italian chaos

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  • Life abroad, Italian chaos (5)
  • Motherhood & Reflection (2)
  • Parenting WTF (1)

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